A fools invitation. .....

Aazmaye hue ko kaya aazmana..jab pata   ho ki jo kahta h woh karta nahi aur jo karta h woh kahta nahi..... waqt per sab  chore do..waqt sab sikha aur  samjha deta h.....

A year 2014 That will end ....

So December again the last month of the year.This year has been remarkable in the sense that some strong decisions taken by me ,made the way for good life ahead , leaving behind the past.

It was difficult but I was determined to move on in  my life.Nobody can reverse the situation but anybody  can do the new beginning, and this is  what I have done.

I would thank my senior colleague,my guiding spirit Nishank sir for this.He has been along with my  family the motivating factor.

A lot has been learnt on the personal &  professional front.A lesson that has been the changing &  Stimulating factor in my life.All thanks to Allah The beneficial & merciful.

I have become much better person than I was 4-5 years ago.It all happened because of The Almighty Allah.

I hope  that 2015 will bring love, happiness, peace, togetherness, health for  all , my family , friends &  wellwishers.

wishing all my blog readers merry Christmas & happy new year !!!

A Thought !!!!

I was asked by one the news channel at my office how your life changed after Nirbhaya case? Though I replied them what came first in my mind but later on when I gave a thought to the question nothing has changed nor it has  affected neither any difference in the situation pre and post Nirbhaya.

Females was not safe pre Nirbhaya nor they are save post Nirbhaya.We encounter Vulgar slang,Whistling,Comments,double meaning jokes,Talks etc in our daily life.Appreciating the beauty or dress is something different.I have been working for last 12 years and nothing has changed since then.Females are raped not physically but emotionally also.In both the cases Bruise leave a deep scare.This is what I feel.

I have Observed that  males sees a female as "Maal" an object for entertainment.Definitely the age does not matter.Even 75 years old man has the same thought.They some how try to grab the attention of the girl just for pass time in the name of Friendship-Very commonly used,I Love You-one of the best emotional way to attract girl or You are my colleague I get along with you very well.These are all beginning of using the female emotions.It depends on the girl how mature she is to handle this & not let anybody use her.

I am working as HR and girls do come and share their experiences with me.I encourage them to be very confident and firm in dealing such instances.If a female conduct her very confidently and firmly no one will dare to behave in such manner.Precaution is better than cure this applies for female at the same time I think parents should from the beginning teach boys to respect females they should become their friends instead of parents,Because this will help them to know how they are behaving in their absences.Charity begins at home.

We all need to give a thought on this.Day by Day so many males & females across India getting degrees but what are they really earning from education? 

A sweet conversation with friend !!!

I just had a lovely sweet conversation with my long time friend.Although we both are busy in our life but we manage to keep in touch through watsapp.Today we happen to be online at the same time and thus our  good long conversation started.We shared lots of thing & memory with each other.It really made me happy & I mean it.

But at the end while finishing the conversation he said -"Accha laga baat ker k aapse. Once again thanks for giving your time."
I was deeply hurt by this statement.I did not obliged him by talking to him.Infact I love talking to him for hours & hours .I have very special place for this friend of mine.

Importance

It's sad when you realize you aren't as important to someone as you thought you were.

Miss U

★Missing someone is the worst feeling,and that too when u know that u will not be able to see him anymore.

All moments spend together just flash back on  my mind as a film. Those long telephonic talks, sharing romantics feeling for each other, complimenting each other on success ,hours of texting each other.

I love buying things for him.I used to move from one shop to other just to select shirt for him.lot of confusion: no this one good, arrree no this one is looking elegant etc. Finally when he wears it and he too liked it, its the most wonderful feeling ever.

I adore each and every moment we spent together.  For me its like a reason to live .I dont know what is his view.

Supporting each other in the hour of crisis and tension, fighting with other and then saying sorry to each other .

I WILL CHERISH THOSE MEMORIES THROUGH OUT MY LIFE.

At the end I wanna say -

I wanna write "I miss you" on a rock and throw it at your face so you know how much it hurts to miss you.★

5 rules of a relationship

5 rules of a relationship:
1. Stay faithful.
2. Make them feel wanted.
3. Respect your partner.
4. Don't flirt with others.
5. Make time.

I have read these lines on tweeter.we often speak about these thing in very scattered form here it has been summarised in a very simple sentences and words.

Through my friends and people around me I have learn the value of relationship.I have come across a personalities for whom making relations and disregarding them or you can call ditching the relations is as easy as changing t-shirt.

By doing these type of act they are not guilty and its like daily routine work. They move on to make new relations to repeat the same. To avoid any blaming they create false story.

Many years ago one of my friend  has gone through this pain.she was involved with guy . Her marriage was about to be fixed .she was very upset and tried her level best to convince her parents but all her efforts went in vain. Then she asked her BF to come over and decide the future action ie marriage.she along with friend went  to the place and waited there for hours. The guy did not turned up and neither responded on phone. This was the result of  years of spending together, sharing small things ....

I saw my friend her hands blue and tear filled puffy eyes , nothing was in her hand . He could not marry her because he was the only son of his parent and did not want to go against there wish. So at the  time of decision making he realises that he is the only son , what was he doing so long ..he even did not even put up this matter to his parents.

Ultimately my friend has to marry as per her parent wish. This is a true story and these type  of things happens.

The girl has to suffer in these type of relation. The guy moves on without regret and enjoy his life. The girl has to compromise and had to adjust her self to the new partner which she never thought off.

To all the girls and the guys who are in the relationship and the one who is reading follows these small rules. Be faithfull to the person you are in love with.Commitments are made to be fulfilled and through them cherish the beauty of relationship.

Be Honest and Trustworthy

The literal meaning of relationship is the way in which two or more people or things are connected or state of being connected. In other words an emotional bonding between two people is called relationship. Relationship with friends, co-worker, boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife and family are important components of our lives.

As we go through in life we meet variety of people. Relationship can mean different things to different people. As we meet people we develop a relationship with them either in a form of friend, teacher, mentor etc.

But each and every relationship has emotions of its own. It has the bonding of love, faith, trust, honesty, blood relations etc. The blood relations like father, mother, brother, sister are by birth and trust, love; honesty comes naturally to these relations. It does not require too much of nurturing and efforts.

Second the friendship or the relation between two friends are the one which is built on the base of trust ,similar liking, honesty, faith or sometimes circumstances makes  two people friends. These relationship need efforts from both the sides to develop and for long lasting friends has to come forward to fulfil the demands of the friendship, for example-should be there at the time of crisis, whether emotional or financial, celebrating small successes, being miles apart but making a weekly call to say “Hi”, “Hello” gives immense pleasure and strength to the friends and relationship thus gets stronger.

The much talked about the controversial relationship is the boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. In other words love relationship. Every person on this earth wants to fall in love or wants and desire to be loved. It’s the feeling that makes a person fly on seventh cloud. No doubt love makes a person very sensitive and mature in terms of understanding of emotions, verbal and non-verbal behaviour. But among all these merry go round the most important ingredient in this relationship is TRUST and HONESTY towards each other because this is the relationship which is built only and only on TRUST, when two unknown people come close then TRUST is the only thing  which becomes the base of the relationship.

In this relationship small little things can cause trouble and at times can be source of immense joy and Happiness. Many people are being cheated and ditched in this relationship. Love is blind as it is widely said and heard, so when you love someone you tend to believe him/her easily and blindly .This believes and trust is being misused by the other party. This situation is very difficult to handle. Few Questions arises: - What would be the state of mind when he/she ditched the other? What was the thought or plan he/she was making while doing so? Did he or she love the other party? Was love for him/her just for status symbol that he or she possesses girlfriend or boyfriend? Before doing so didn’t he/she thought about the pain or agony the other would go through?

On the other side there are people who are truly in love with their partner and they have given their relationship an important meaning i.e. Marriage. Taking their relationship to another level by the institution of marriage.  It is not that everything   must have been bed of roses but still they stood firm and beard the pain to be together.

In my opinion when you are in love give all what you have i.e. 100% of your love, trust and loyalty no matter what may come. Because when things  does not fall into its place you did not have to suffer from any guilt.

So depth and sincerity should be the most important. One should have few good and rewarding relationships rather than focusing on too many people who slip in and out of your life as and when they please.